A Few Good Things

I’ve been attending my church’s women’s bible study for a few months. For whatever reason, I’m the only married woman who attends. We were chatting about Facebook, and I mentioned that I don’t like to look at Facebook too often because it tends to make me feel bad about myself.

“But what could you have to be jealous of?” asked one of the younger women. “You’re married and you have a baby.”

I was slightly taken aback by this comment, and could’ve given her a list of things I might be jealous of. People with dishwashers, for example. The feminist part of me bristles a bit at the implications of that statement — as if women should aspire to nothing more than being wives and mothers.

And yet — maybe she’s right. It is so easy to take for granted the blessings that are in our lives every day. While it’s true that I don’t have the money or the career that I thought I would have at age 29, I do have a few good things. A healthy, beautiful, sweet daughter who adores me. A kind, smart, handsome husband who is an amazing chef. An apartment in a great Portland neighborhood. No debt. Faith in God. A graduate degree. Friends and family nearby. Memories of trips to Europe and Hawaii.

Well, when you put it that way my life seems pretty good. Maybe Facebook doesn’t need to make me feel bad about myself after all.

 

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1 comment
  1. Alice said:

    Oh, I have similar trouble with Facebook. Perhaps even President Obama feels bad about himself when he looks at Facebook. All comparisons are odious, someone once said. We do ourselves in with comparisons. We never measure up. And yet all of us can find ways in which we have been blessed. You are one of the blessed ones, in so many ways. I understand, though, that the isolation of motherhood can bring on depression, a sense of separation, even a sense of loss. But truly, you are blessed, and this is a precious time for you and Marie, and Spencer, too.

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