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Today is my son’s 5 month birthday. I can definitely say that I’ve fallen in love with the little guy in the last couple months. I guess all the attachment parenting tactics have been working for me – breastfeeding, baby-wearing, co-sleeping. I know you’re not “supposed to” co-sleep, and I actually prefer not to but I just can’t keep getting out of bed every time he wakes up in the middle of the night. So he sleeps in his crib part-time and in our bed part-time. I never planned to co-sleep with my daughter either, but it also became a necessity…and it’s only since Paul’s been born that she’s been willing to sleep by herself. Anyway…

I feel almost back to my normal self. Definitely not thriving like I was during my pregnancy, but it seems like my hormones have stabilized enough that I’m no longer feeling as moody. I feel exhausted but mostly okay lately. The one problem is that I’ve been so sleep deprived that now I’m having a hard time sleeping even when everyone else is asleep. The little ones are both asleep now, so I should quickly wrap up this post and try to get to bed.

I’m looking forward to preschool starting again soon. Of course I love my 3-year-old, but I know we’ll both be happier once she’s back in school. She needs kids to play with, and I need some time to do the dishes without being interrupted by “Mom you pretend to be the Evil Queen and I’ll be Snow White, okay?”

In other good news, I got an email from an editor today saying that my travel articles were good, and that he wouldn’t say it if it weren’t true, because he’s worked with a lot of “terrible” writers lately. So that made me feel good. I’m glad that I’m staying connected with my career even though I don’t get the opportunity to work very much right now.

My sweet baby boy is almost crawling already. That puts him about a month ahead of his sister, which was already super early. He also has a delightful laugh. Just thinking about his laugh makes my heart melt.

I was hanging out with a new friend yesterday who’s a first-time mom of a 2-month-old. She seemed to be coping as well as could be expected, but it reminded me of how overwhelmed I felt when I was a new mom. I thought of all the mama skills I’ve gained that have helped make my life easier.

Not easy mind you. But easier – today I was able to accomplish taking my four-month-old and three-year-old with me to the grocery store. And I also did laundry. And applied for a job. And tonight we took the little ones out for pizza and dancing. So it was a productive day.

My friend Catherine writes a blog called The Ten Thousand Hour Mama. There’s a theory that if you spend ten thousand hours practicing something you will become an expert at it. So, ten thousand hours of violin practice, and hopefully you’re ready for a career as a professional musician.

After 3 and 1/4 years as a full-time mom, I think I’ve easily surpassed the ten thousand hour mark. A conservative estimate of ten hours of mama time per day for 3 years puts the total at 10,950 hours as of my daughter’s April birthday. So even subtracting the hours my mom has watched my daughter or that she’s been at preschool, we can call it good.

Skills that I’ve gained? Breastfeeding has been much easier this time around. In part because of my baby, but in part because I knew what to do. I also used to be really uncomfortable breastfeeding in public because I was worried about offending people. But I don’t care anymore. My baby’s need to eat comes first.

I’ve also mastered the skill of getting out of the house. This is incredibly hard as a new mom. Packing the diaper bag with enough wipes, diapers and outfit changes. Getting the baby strapped into the carseat without too much screaming. Or just maintaining your calm throughout the screaming. Now also getting the three-year-old ready and in the car. This is actually one of the most important skills I’ve mastered – I try to have an outing every day in order to maintain my sanity.

I’ve managed to get my 3-year-old potty trained while taking care of my newborn. Or rather, she accepted the bribe of going to ballet camp if she would start pooping on the potty. Ballerinas use the potty.

The things is, you can’t ever be an expert mama because every child is different and every stage is different. I feel like taking care of the baby is easier this time because I’ve done it before and perhaps because of the baby’s personality. But age 3 is new territory and it’s hard.

Maybe once both of my children have graduated from college, then I can consider myself an expert mama. Until then, I’m still learning.

Baby Paul just turned four-months-old last week. He’s a happy little guy with a warm smile and an infectious laugh. His dark red hair has been falling out, leaving bald patches on the back and sides of his head. We’re curious to see if it comes back the same color, or perhaps light blonde to match his eyebrows. Recently he started rolling over from his back to his tummy and getting stuck. This has led to more frequent nighttime wakings.

As for me, my hair has also been falling out for the past month or so. I’m about at my pre-pregnancy weight, but the hole in my abdominals hasn’t healed, so I’ve started doing exercises to correct that. My moods are up and down – I’m not quite sure what my baseline mood should be anymore, since I’ve been either pregnant or breastfeeding for the past 4 years. I also haven’t gotten very good quality sleep for the past 3 + years since my daughter was born.

I’m tired.

I miss working and interacting with other adults regularly.

I’m thankful for two healthy children. Very thankful. I’m enjoying the many opportunities to snuggle with my baby. I know the snuggling age will go by quickly.

It was perfect weather for baby's first trip to the beach.

It was perfect weather for baby’s first trip to the beach.